Take back control. There are a lot of things in life that we have no control over. But the key to healthy living is focusing on your thoughts and reactions — the things you can control. Remember the Serenity Prayer? Even non-religious folks can reap the benefits from following these words: “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.” Withrow said this is a good rule of thumb for stress management. It can be empowering to focus on what you can control and then let go of the things that you can’t.